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Domestic Violence Safety Plan

Domestic Violence Safety Plan
an Immigration Committee Compiled Pamphlet
Rev. 05/05/2015

You deserve to be in a violence-free relationship. If you're living in a violent
relationship, here are some things you can do to protect you and your family.

Safety When Preparing to Leave
  • If an argument takes place, try to have it in an area where there's an exit, and not in rooms near weapons.
  • Practice how to get out for your home safely. Identify which door, window, elevator, or stairwell would be best to use if you need to leave.
  • Keep a packed bag ready with a trusted person so you can leave quickly.
  • Decide on a code word or signal to use with your children, family, friends, and neighbors when you need the police.
  • Identify a neighbor you can tell about the violence and ask them to call the police if they hear a disturbance coming from your home.
  • Decide and plan where you'll go if you have to leave home(even if you don't think you'll need to).
  • Use your own instincts and judgment. If the situation is very dangerous, call the police as soon as it's safe to do so. Call 911 for immediate help.
  • You have the right to get a restraining order at a local court during business hours and from local police immediately after an emergency.
  • Do not leave any children with the abuser.
  • Determine where you could stay and who will lend you money.
  • Open a savings account and credit card in your own name.
  • Leave money, an extra set of keys,  copies of important documents and extra clothes with someone you trust
  • Keep some change or a calling card with you at all times and the phone number of the 24 hour Domestic Violence Hotline (800)978-3600.
  • Review your safety plan  in order to know the safest way to leave your abuser (review with domestic violence advocate if possible)

Safety In and Around Your Home
  • Change/add locks to the doors and windows of your home as soon as possibe. add apeephole and increase outdoor lighting if you can.
  • Review a safety plan with your children, especially what to do when they are not with you.
  • Avoid places your abuser goes often.
  • Change your telephone number.
  • If you don't have a cell phone, use a friend's or purchase a "pay as you go" phone.

If you have a restraining order,
  • Call police or 911 if your abuser violates the protective order.
  • Keep your restraining order with you at all times. Leave an extra copy at work, with a friend, in your car, or another safe place.
  • Tell family and friends you have a restraining order in effect.
  • Tell neighbors and landlord that your partner, spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend, or significant other no longer lives with you and to call the police if they see your abuser near your home.
  • Inform your children's school or daycare who has permission to pick up your children. Give them a copy of your restraining order.

Safety In Public and at Work
  • Share your situation with people you trust - your boss, office or building security, and co-workers. Provide a photo of your abuser if possible. Create a code word to communicate that you need help.
  • Arrange to have an answering machine, caller ID, or co-workers screen your phone calls if possible.
  • Create a safety plan for leaving work. Have someone walk you to your car or bus and wait with you until you are on your way. Vary your routes home if possible. Think about what you would do if something happened while going home.
  • Change your routine. Go to different grocery stores, businesses, and banks.

Safety and Your Emotional Health
  • Discuss alternate plans with someone you trust if you're thinking of returning to your abuser.
  • Determine the safest way to communicate with your partner if you have to, such as a public place.
  • Have positive thoughts about yourself and be assertive with others about your wants and needs.
  • Attend a support group for help and care from others. You can learn more about yourself and the abusive relationship.
  • Decide who you can when you need support.
  • Reading books and articles of other survivors may help you feel you're not alone. This may help you feel stronger.

Teen Dating Violence
  • If things in your relationship don't feel right to you, talk with someone you trust. 
  • Decide which friend, teacher, relative, or police officer you can go to in an emergency.
  • Contact a domestic violence advocate, the police, or call the TEEN LINE at (310)855-4673 to learn how to get a restraining order and create a safety plan.

What You Need to Take When You Leave

  •  Driver's license
  • Passport
  • Identification (I.D.)
  • Social security card
  • Birth certificate
  • Children's birth certificates
  • Green card
  • Work permit/immigration papers
  • Marriage certificate
  • Divorce papers
  • Restraining order
  • Welfare documents
  • Medical records
  •  Insurance papers
  • Rental lease/house deed
  • Car registration
  • Check book/money
  • Address book
  • Medications
  • House/car keys
  • Children's favorite toys
  • Pictures
  • Jewelry
  • Small objects to sell
  • Pets (if possible)

Temporary Restraining Orders

There are free clinics that offer help with filing a restraining order at the following court houses. There are no appointments and you are seen on a first come, first served basis.
 Downtown LA - 111 N. Hill St., R. 245
Inglewood - 1 Regent St., Rm. 204
Lancaster - 42011 4th St. West, Rm. 3700
Van Nuys - 6230 Sylmar Ave., Rm. 350
Norwalk - 12720 Norwalk Bl., Rm. 205
Long Beach - 275 Magnolia Ave., Rm. 1004
 Pasadena - 300 E. Walnut St.., Rm. 300
Pomona - 400 Civic Center Plaza, Rm. 701
San Fernando - 900 Third St., Cafeteria
Santa Monica - 1725 Main St., Rm. 121
Compton - 902 W. Compton Bl., Rm. 902

Hotlines

LA County Adult Protective Services......(877) 477-3646
LA County Child Abuse Hotline..............(800) 540-4000
LA County Domestic Violence Hotline...(800) 978-3600
Sexual Assault Hotline............................(800) 656-4673
Suicide Crisis Line...................................(877) 727-4747
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